IsYour Own Frustration Destroying Your Own Best Efforts
People get frustrated from time to time. People’s behaviour frustrates us, we get frustrated by our own lack of success, we get frustrated by things over which we have no control – like the weather or volcanic ash! But what of those of us who are trying to do our best to live a better life, or even change our lives, who get frustrated because nothing seems to be happening, we don’t seem to be making the great strides that we expected?
Newsflash! – the guaranteed way of holding yourself back is wondering why you’re not going forward! Frustration is a waste of our precious attention and energy. Wondering why nothing seems to be happening is a useless, negative, self-defeating thought that is tantamount to saying to ourselves “well, I sort of knew that it wasn’t going to happen anyway!”
We have a finite amount of energy available to us and your personal development goal must be to marshal that energy and shine it, like a laser beam, on getting on with the business of both living now and heading in the direction of whatever it is that you want out of life. Frustration, worry or even wondering about when, how or if something will happen is a dangerous distraction, a self-destructive use of your energy – it’s like you’re focusing your powerful laser beam back on yourself! You have to be so careful where you point that laser beam because it can be equally constructive or destructive.
However, if you’re normal, your laser beam isn’t switched on at all. Psychology confirms that the average person pays precious little attention to anything and invests a mere one percent of their energy in doing what they’re supposed to be doing. If you’re not doing what you should be doing now, when are you going to start? The only place and time that you are is now – the only place and time that you can focus your energy is now. Daydreaming, wishful thinking, wanting or needing are destructive uses of your energy because these thoughts have nothing to do with the scientific reality that everything exists only here and now.
Therefore, if you’re getting frustrated that you don’t seem to be getting anywhere, it’s your own frustration itself that’s tying you down. If you feel as if you’re stuck in a rut, it’s that very feeling that will perpetuate your discomfort. You’ve got to re-direct your attention to the urgency of living in the present moment. Now is the time and place that requires your attention – not some of it, like normal crazy people, but as much of it as you can marshal. The very input of an abnormal amount of energy into the here and now will evoke an abnormal response from universal energy. That’s how extraordinarily successful people are so successful – they put their energy into the here and now and, as a result, they have presence. This must be your goal as well.